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228 Secret words kids use online

Do you really know what your kids are saying online? And if they’re using words that you don’t recognise, can you safely say you know what they are up to? Here are 228 words you need to know.

Keeping our kids safe

As parents we have a responsibility to make sure we keep our kids safe. One of the hardest places to do this is online. Which is why we want to share this list of 228 words with you, produced by Nottinghamshire Police, which include hashtags and acronyms that could imply they are talking about issues such as eating disorders, drug use, and self harm.

Secret words kids use online

The list has been divided into the following four categories:

Phrases which imply they are involved in some activities which would be cause for concern.

They might be slightly concerning but, in context, they're generally harmless.

These are terms which are just slang or abbreviations with no concerning connotations, but have been compiled into a list so parents don't get confused between what's potentially dangerous and what's not.

Child online on a tablet

1. Warning flags

#ana - anorexia

#deb - depression

#sue - suicide

#svv - self-harming behaviour

#thinsp - thinspiration (photos or messages that inspire an effort to become thin)

9 - a parent is watching

420 - marijuana

ASL - age, sex, location

CD9 - parents are around

Crow - cannabis

CU46 - see you for sex

Daddy - can mean a partner who takes good care of you affectionately or someone with great influence and power over you

Down in the DM - short for plans in their social media or texts for an upcoming sexual hook-up

F2F or FTF - face to face

FWB - friends with benefits

FYEO - for your eyes only

GNOC - get naked on camera

Hooking up - having sex

‘I know a way you can earn money fast’ - a possible way of asking for photos/webcam access or a way to get information to blackmail a young person

‘I know someone who can get you a modelling job’ - a possible way of asking for photos and flattering the young person

IRL - in real life

IWSN - I want sex now

‘Let's go private’ - leave the public chatroom and create a private chat or move to instant-messaging/texting

LMIRL - let's meet in real life

KPC - keep parents clueless

Merked - really drunk or beaten up or getting found out or getting told off

MIRL - meeting in real life

Molly - ecstasy/MDMA

MOOS - member of the opposite sex

MOS - mum over shoulder

Moving to (someone) - approaching, either aggressively or romantically

Netflix 'n Chill - to meet under the pretence of watching Netflix/TV together when actually planning to meet for ‘making out’ or sex

NIFOC - naked in front of computer

NSFL - not safe for life

NSFW - not safe for work

P911 or P999 - parents are watching

POS - parents over shoulder

Pre-ing - pre-drinking

RU/18 - are you over 18?

Sket - insulting term used towards girls

Smash - to have casual sex

Swipe right - term of approval derived from dating app Tinder

Thirsty - being desperate for something

Trolling - fooling someone - often used when people are commenting nasty abuse online

Wavey - drunk or high

‘Where's your computer in your house?’ - possibly a way of checking to see if parents might be around

‘Who/What's your favourite band/designer/film/gear?’ - possibly a way of trying to get to know more so that they can offer gifts

Wired - drug induced paranoia

WYRN - what's your real name?

‘You are the love of my life’ - possibly a way of flattering a young person and creating an emotional bond with them

‘You seem sad. Tell me what's bothering you’ - possibly a way of expressing sympathy and inviting them to share personal information

Zerg - to gang up on someone.

2. Terms to keep an eye on

4eae - for ever and ever

ADN - any day now

AF - as f***

Aired - ignoring someone

‘Are you parring me?’ - are you showing me disrespect?

B - babe (can be just a friend)

Bae - short for ‘baby’ and used as a term of endearment for a significant other such as a boyfriend or girlfriend. Short for ‘before anyone else’

Basic - lacking originality

Begfriend - someone who sucks up to someone else

BFN - bye for now

BOL - be on later

Bookie - weird or disgusting

Booted - left behind or dumped

Butters - ugly person

Bye Felicia - dismissive term when you want an annoying person to go away

Curve - to reject someone romantically

Dime - someone who is extremely good looking

DM - direct message

Ghost - ghosting someone is to completely ignore someone suddenly, usually as a nasty way of breaking up with someone

GLHF - good luck, have fun

HT or H/T- heard through

HAK - hugs and kisses

IANAL - I am not a lawyer

ILY or ILU - I love you

IU2U - it's up to you

IYKWIM - if you know what I mean

J4F - just for fun

JIC - just in case

J/K - just kidding

Kicked - left behind

Low key - a warning that what they're saying isn't something they want everyone to know

NAGI - not a good idea

OH - overheard

PAP - post a picture

Peng or tidy - really attractive

Preeing - looking at someone online (also known as "Facebook stalking")

PTB - please text back

QQ - crying

RL - real life

Salty - to be bitter about something or someone

Ship - relationship or to admire a couple (such as 'I ship them')

Sip tea - to mind your own business

Skurt - go away or leave

Slept - to knock someone out

Slipping - messing up

Stacked - built, really muscly, toned

Swag - confidence or fancy clothes/jewellery

SWAK - sealed with a kiss

SWYP - so what's your problem?

TBR - to be rude

Throw shade - to give someone a nasty look or say something unpleasant about them

TIME - tears in my eyes

TMB - tweet me back

VSF - very sad face

WTH or WTF - what the heck?

WTPA - where's the party at?

WYCM - will you call me?

WYSIWYG - what you see is what you get

YGM - you've got mail

YOLO - you only live once

3. 'Fun' terms

:3 - a symbol designed to represent a cat face, to be used after saying something cute, odd or coy

2day - today

Acc - actually

AFAIK - as far as I know

AFK - away from keyboard

ATM - at the moment

B4 - before

Baffed - confused

Banter - fun chat

Bare or bear - 'really really'

B/C - because

BF or GF - boyfriend or girlfriend

Blates - obviously

Blessed - nice person

Boots - a way to say 'very' or 'a lot' - it's used after the verb or adjective

BRB - be right back

Bromance - close friendship between two boys

Bruh - a casual nickname for 'bro'

BTW - by the way

Buck me - give me

Buff - attractive

Can't even - an expression of exasperation

CBA - can't be bothered

Cray - crazy

Cuz - friend

Dench - fantastic/cool

Dope - really cool/awesome

DWBH - don't worry be happy

Fail - something goes wrong

Fam - their closest friends

FB - Facebook

Feels - feelings

FF - Follow Friday

Fierce - looking amazing/incredible

FOMO - fear of missing out

FTL - for the loss

FTW - for the win

FWIW - for what it's worth

FYI - for your information

G - a friend (boy to boy)

Gassed - happy

GOAT - greatest of all time

GR8 - great

GTG - got to go

Gucci - something is good or cool

HAND - have a nice day

Hella - really

HTH - hope this helps or happy to help

Hundo P - 100% sure/certain

IDEK - I don't even know

IDK - I don't know

IIRC - if I remember correctly

IK - I know

IKR - I know right?

Ill - fantastic or cool

IMHO - in my honest opinion

IMO - in my opinion

Is everything - great/important

It's lit - it's cool/awesome

I'm weak - that was funny

Jarring - annoying

Jokes - really funny

JSYK - just so you know

K or KK - okay

Legend - someone or something considered very cool

LMAO or LMBO - laughing my butt off

LMK - let me know

Lol - laugh out loud

MM - Music Monday

MSM - mainstream media

NM - never mind

NMU - not much, you?

NP - no problem or now playing

NTS - note to self

Obvi - obviously

OMG - oh my God

On fleek - on point or executed really well

ORLY - oh really?

OTP - the fictional couple you think were meant to be together

Peak - unfortunate

Pls or plz - please

PPL - people

RAK - random act of kindness

ROFL - rolling on the floor laughing

RT - retweet

RUOK - are you okay?

Skl - school

Safe - reliable or good person

SSDD - same stuff, different day

Savage - cool

Sick - fantastic/cool

Slay - doing really well

Squad - their friend group

SMH - shaking my head

Snatched - same as 'on fleek'

SRSLY - seriously

Straight fire - something is hot or trendy

Swear - are you serious?

TBH - to be honest

TIA - thanks in advance

TMI - too much information

TMRW - tomorrow

To be down/pumped for something - excited to do something

Truss - I agree

TTYL - talk to you later

Turnt/turnt up - same as 'lit'

TY or TU - thank you

Ur - your/you're

V - very

YAS - enthusiastic version of yes

You da real MVP - thanks for doing a mundane but important task

YW - you're welcome

Wag1 or wagwan - what's up?

WB - welcome back

Woke - highly aware of social issues

ZOMG - oh my God

Nottinghamshire Police said:

'The key message to parents is to talk to their children if they spot any the phrases or language which cause concern.'

You can find a number of resources aimed at keeping your children safe online here:


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